The Magical Dance of Healing and Growth
- Deniz Kayadelen
- 6 days ago
- 3 min read
How motherhood synchronizes body, soul, and love in every breath and every feed
There’s something almost divine about the postpartum period.
As I lie here, my baby curled in my arms, I realize: we are no longer just two separate beings — we are a perfectly synchronised system, bound by biology, emotion, and love.
Her growth and my healing are no longer two different journeys.
They are one.
The More She Drinks, the More I Heal
Let’s talk science and soul.
Every time my baby feeds, she’s not just growing stronger — I am too.
Her suckling releases oxytocin, the powerful love hormone, in my brain.
That oxytocin tells my uterus to contract, helping it return to its pre-pregnancy state.
The same hormone deepens our emotional bond, making me fall in love with her over and over again.
Meanwhile, she gets the perfect nutrition designed exactly for her development, immune protection, and growth.
This is nature’s most intelligent system, one that no machine or lab could ever recreate. It’s magical. It’s primal. It’s perfect.
A Mutual Dependency Built on Trust and Instinct
My body produces milk not just based on time, but based on her needs. The more she drinks, the more I make. It’s a finely tuned communication system:
If she feeds more one day, my body automatically increases production.
If she skips a feed, my breasts send a message: “Time to slow down.”
And when they’re full, they let me know — urgently — that it’s time for her to drink again.
It’s so deeply connected that I sometimes wake up before she does, already feeling that it’s time to feed — not because she cried, but because my own body whispered it to me.
We’re co-regulating. Co-evolving. Co-existing.
Feeding is More Than Nutrition — It’s Medicine for Both of Us
Let’s not underestimate what breastfeeding gives:
For the baby:
Perfect balance of fat, protein, and antibodies
Protection against infections and chronic diseases
Support for brain and gut development
Emotional safety through skin-to-skin bonding
For the mother:
Faster postpartum recovery
Lower risk of postpartum depression
Lower long-term risk of breast and ovarian cancers
Calorie burn that aids natural weight regulation
A deep hormonal support system for healing and love
Two Hearts, One Rhythm
I used to train my body to extremes.
Now my body is training itself to love more deeply, to give more gently, to respond more wisely.
And she? She’s growing not just in size, but in trust, presence, and awareness. With every feed, she knows the world is safe. That I am here. That she is loved.
This is what they don’t tell you in birth prep classes —
That your body will become her sanctuary.
That your healing will be powered by her hunger.
That you’ll be reborn together.
Postpartum Isn’t Just Recovery — It’s Alchemy
We are not “bouncing back.”
We are transforming.
This time isn’t just about sleepless nights and milk-stained shirts.
It’s about witnessing the beauty of life creating life, healing through connection, and thriving through surrender.
So yes, I feed her every two hours, even at night. Not because I “have to,” but because my body wants to. It’s aching to give. To nurture. To complete this sacred cycle.
To all mamas out there:
You are not alone in this dance.
You are powerful, even in your exhaustion.
And your body — still bleeding, still aching — is performing miracles every single day.
To all babies:
Thank you for reminding us how to trust nature again.
Thank you for showing us how love is built — breath by breath, drop by drop.
With milk, magic, and messy hair.
With oxytocin in our veins,
and love in every cell,
we flow forward — together.
Watch or listen to Episode 9 of my podcast “The Psychology of Pregnancy” on Spotify and YouTube, where I dive into stories of resilience, flow, and peak performance.
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